Relationship before marriage

This is not just for relationships that are in strife. Attending counselling together can help you to voice your worries and concerns, and air any pre-wedding jitters you may have in a safe space. The help of a professional to help you navigate this transition will benefit both of you. This is even more invaluable if this is the second marriage for one or both of you.

 

Create daily habits

Think of it as a ritual of sorts, but start to do something regularly that bonds you together. It can be a 15 minute conversation before you turn in each night, or stopping the early-morning rush each day to have a coffee and chat before you head off to work.

Start to develop boundaries for yourselves, and also your friends and family. You will want to find that balance where you can connect with your friends and family, and keep apace with what is happening in their worlds, while also giving you and your partner ample time for just the two of you. This can become harder when holidays like Christmas and Easter roll around — but talk it through in advance with your partner so you can make sure everyone is happy.

 

Make time for each other

Regular date nights are not only fun, but they force you to unplug from the day-to-day and enjoy each other’s company.

When you have been in a relationship for a long time, it can be easy to slip out of the habit of appreciating the little things you do for each other. Try to remember to thank your partner if they do something for you, like cook dinner, because even if they do it every day, a simple ‘thank you’ can show that you are not taking them for granted.

 

Think in terms of a healthy marriage

When you find yourself having to make an important choice, don’t just think whether it would be good for you or your partner – think about whether it would be good for your future marriage. If you are being offered a promotion that will take you increasingly away from home, think about how your relationship will fare. Or, if an ex has asked you out for lunch, think about how your partner would react to the news. Experts say that if you can’t bring yourself to even ask your partner, you have pretty much answered the question already.