Having a baby after marriage

Congratulations! You and your partner are becoming parents and you have never been so ecstatic. But no matter how long you have been together, your relationship will never be on a more intense ride than the roller coaster of parenthood. Read on to see how a baby changes your marriage.

 

You can practically prepare for it as much as you like, read the books, study the techniques, or sign up for classes, but until you never know how you will both go until you are already strapped in and the ride has started!

There is absolutely no way that introducing a little human into your lives is not going to have an impact on the relationship with your spouse – it completely changes the dynamics of your family.

But this can be both amazing and challenging. Here are some ways a baby can change your marriage and some solutions to work through this adjustment together.

As newlyweds, your worlds revolved around each other. But once a baby arrives, they are the new center of gravity that you and your spouse revolve around.

Although newborns live a simple life at first, requiring food, plenty of sleep and regular nappy changes, their 24/7 reliance on you does demand undivided attention and can impact on the time you give to your partner.

Try to make some time to have a decent conversation with your partner each day, even if it is only for a few minutes. That time of undivided attention will show your spouse that you still acknowledge them and aren’t caught up in a permanent baby bubble.

You have never been as tired as you are when you are caring for a newborn. Nor will you be as tired ever again. A baby changes your marriage in many ways, but this one makes everything else harder to cope with. Be sure to look after yourself and your partner!

Constant night feedings, catnaps, crazed hormones and being on alert around the clock will mean that you may not be thinking straight.

In these circumstances, it is common to have a short fuse and to snap at your spouse over the smallest things.

You may even find something they have always done, and you thought to be quirky, now completely intolerable, and annoying beyond comprehension.

You will both need to cut each other some slack because chances are your partner is also sleep deprived and rattled by dealing with this change in your lives. So, make a conscious decision to let some things slide and give each other a bit more room for error.